Dear Annie: Recently, I came across this poem. I’ve seen it attributed to Pope Francis – I don’t know if he actually said it. Anyway, I thought you might share it with your readers. You don’t have to be a Catholic to get anything out of it.

“Do you want to fast this Lent?”

“Make hurtful words to yourself quickly and say kind words.”

“Walk away from sadness and be filled with gratitude.

“Cast yourselves anger and be filled with patience.

“Throw yourself away from pessimism and be filled with hope.

“Get worried quickly and trust in God.

“Avoid complaints and contemplate simplicity.

“Get away from the pressures and pray.

“Fast with bitterness and fill your heart with joy.

“Stay away from selfishness and be compassionate towards others.

“Walk away from grudges and be reconciled.

“Quickly speak up and stay quiet so you can listen.” — Grandmother

Dear Grandmother: This wisdom is certainly universal and more necessary than ever. Thanks for writing.

Dear Annie: You were so right to encourage “RSVPP” to attend the son’s wedding, despite the distance. My son invited me to his wedding and I went, although I was hardly involved in his life.

I was offended during the event, as our relationship had become, but I was strong. I have this milestone, a universal and timeless tradition in my memory. My only daughter actually told me that I would not be coming to her wedding and I was away. Today my son is dead, and I have no regrets as I have this moment in my memory of his short life. The awkward moments have faded. Maybe they should read “Fault Lines, Fractured Families and How to Repard” by Karl Pillemer before they leave. They are not alone and maybe their presence will be a turning point in the relationship. For some reason, the son took the first step. The couple will likely have their grandchildren. They don’t want to keep the door closed to the possibility that “RSVPP” shares this joy. Life, as I have learned, is unpredictable. – A mother always

Dear AMA: I am very sorry for the loss of your son. Your ideas are valuable and I appreciate the book recommendation.

Dear Annie: I fell in love and lost track of myself. He broke my heart. I no longer know how to pull myself together. He just seems to see me as a joke and just likes to play with me. He’s still calling and texting. But also makes me ashamed to have answered. What kind of way is it to act? What should I do? – Fired

Dear Demis: This man looks like a psychic vampire, and he won’t be satisfied until he sucks your life out. Ban him from your house and block his number. You might find it hard not to talk to her at first, but I promise it will get easier over time and you will consider it one of the best decisions of your life.

In the meantime, I encourage you to contact a therapist. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) at any time; their trained specialists are available 24/7/365 and they not only help survivors of physical violence, but also people who experience psychological violence, which you seem to be. Hang on.

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